this IS your life… are you who YOU want to be?

Question for you – At what point is it ok to measure ourselves? When are we actually allowed to find a place in time and say I've done this, I've done that, this has been public, this has been private. How do we measure ourselves and what are we measuring ourselves against- Our limitations? Our goals? Each other? What is that measuring stick for ourselves? Is it what we want to accomplish? Is it what our parents have set out for us to do? Our peers? Our friends? Our bosses? Our co-workers? At what point do we find ourselves, saying to ourselves, ok this is good, this is bad, this is a success, and this is a failure. If your like me it's all in your heart. I'm really tough on myself and I think everyone is very different about how they measure themselves. For those of us that don't have what the public would perceive as extraordinary lives- how do you look back on your time and your experiences and measure those, I guess is where I am trying to go with all this. Experiences that we have had, friendships we've had, relationships we've had, jobs we've had, where does that all stack up for us? Are we trying to get to one particular point, is there just one lofty goal that were all trying to meet? Or do we have lots of little steps or I guess a latter where we have measurable goals along the way. Some people are always trying to live up to the standards that their parents present to them, some people who don't care what their parents think are trying to keep up with their peers. Some people only basically live to work and therefore their bosses are their higher power that they answer to. I think in trying to understand how everyone else measures themselves along the way I find myself wondering how I do the same thing and who in my life holds those measuring sticks for me. When I boil it all down it's always me. I'm always the hardest one on myself and I'm always the one who sort of lies in bed at night and says "did I do a good job today" and I am an over-thinker, over worrier and a planner, but ultimately we answer to ourselves. Why can't sometimes we give ourselves a break? I'm in a time right now where I'm questioning a lot of things all in a healthy way, I think. Trying to change some bad habits, trying to increase the good habits, trying to be a good person and I think that's all we can ask of ourselves. So how do we measure ourselves? Take a look at your own life. Who are your bosses in life? You? Your boss? Your friends? Your parents? How does it all measure up and then find out what is worthy of actually being that higher place, that judgment seat for yourself. Ultimately I think it should be ourselves because at the end of the day we are the ones that have to answer to our own attitudes and our own senses of self worth in achievement. So that's that… this IS your life… are you who YOU want to be?

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